I've been very lucky to this point in my life. I've been fortunate to have had many outstanding coaches, teachers, and mentors in many walks of my life. All of these people have contributed more than they know to my happiness and success.
Having said that I'm still searching for more. Searching for things to learn and do better. I believe that it's our own responsibility to seek out our own success and find those people who can benefit us and help us benefit others. Over time I've found that one of the most important skills to have is the skill of asking for help. I've found that many people in the know are more than willing to help if you only ask. I've made it a point to ask lots of questions of many different people and they always seem to be more than willing to help.
I've also run into people who were not willing to offer assistance. All they did was tell me NO. NO doesn't hurt unless I let it.
Hearing NO tells me that this person may not have the time or desire to help me, but it's nothing personal and I don't take it as such. If I hear a NO I just move onto the next person and see if I can find my answer there and more often than not I usually do. There are a few rules to this question asking. Here they are: - Be thankful for the help you've been given. Let the person know that you appreciate what they have done for you and you will put it to good use - Be reasonable with your requests.
It's o.k. to ask some questions of that person, but be respectful of their time and how many questions you ask. Remember that you are certainly not the only person who asks of their time and expertise - Be willing and ready to pay the person something for their time and effort. You should not expect a person to continually give of their time and effort and not be willing to pay them something for their services.
Wanting everything for nothing is cheap. No one likes a cheapskate who always wants and never wants to give. - Be willing to share your new found knowledge with others. Help those who come to you by giving back what you have learned.
Giving back is an important element of a successful person. Having the confidence to ask someone for their help is an important step in helping you achieve the knowledge and the success that you desire. Afraid to ask? Work on it. Your skill to ask for help will grow with practice. Once you start flexing your ask for help muscle, you'll be surprised at how easy it is and how beneficial it will be to you.
There are many great ideas and many great people out there who can really help take you to new personal levels of achievement. Don't be afraid to ask. It's the one skill that everyone needs to develop. Fred Nicklaus.
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