First and foremost you must understand you are in charge of your life, you always have been and always will be. This is quite a daunting thought for most people, in fact over 90% of people play the blame game, its easier to blame people, places and things than take full responsibility for our actions. You can see this in so many lives. How many time have we heard,"It wasn't me guv it was him" or it's easier to blame the boss or work colleagues when we are not progressing in the work place. How often have we blamed our partners for holding us back? How often is it the government or authorities fault, we can always say we are too young or too old. The best excuse for not achieving must be "it's not my fault I can't get anywhere, I'm like I am because of the conditioning of my childhood, and it was my fathers/mothers fault".
Yes, you may have been conditioned to accept a certain lifestyle and to accept a certain standard of living but this doesn't mean you cannot change it. When you can honestly stand and raise your hand up, take full responsibility for your actions, and accept everything in your past, your success and your failures, and know these are down to you, then and only then it is at that time you can say you are half way to becoming as successful as you want to be. You might think there is no correlation between complaining and success when in fact there is a connection. When you are spending time complaining about the obstacles you are facing, you are wasting so much time being negative that you are actually loosing chances to move forward.
Instead of thinking of challenges as problems, think of them as opportunities. Every one of us has failures and has made many mistakes in the past. To have success, you need to learn from your past mistakes and value those difficult lessons but you must not dwell on the past. Simply move forward and make better, more educated decisions from the lessons learned. If you know deep down there is more to life, and you are prepared to be one of the small minority that take full control and responsibility for their actions good or bad, then you need to get yourself some sort of program that will help you get into action so you can achieve the wealth, health and happiness you desire. If you can just stop for one minute and look at the most important word in the last sentence, no not wealth nor is it health or happiness the most important word in the last sentence is actually the corner stone of any self help program and the key to any new life and success, the word is ACTION.
It is so important I will say it again ACTION. The truth is this, only about 3% of people (maybe less) that buy self help books and courses will take the action to actually change their thinking and so give them the success they desire,10% will read through the program, make a plan, but fail to continue to apply it to their every day living. The rest may not even finish reading the book or course.
Barry Share is the Founder and editorial director of "The New Lifestyle Programme" Where you can get your copy of the amazing..."Design for your Success" a 7 step plan to achieving wealth health and happiness => http://newlifestylepro.com/dfs-s.html