Do you even wonder what to do or say when others are drinking too much? It is a gift to them to share in a loving way the suggestions listed below. If you express these with anger or criticism, it is more difficult for them to hear you. It is helpful to speak to them when they are sober.
Many men and women feel guilty because they did not try to stop someone from driving when they had too much alcohol in their system. They wish they had expressed some of the thoughts shared in this article. Others have realized their friend or loved one was high on alcohol and was still willing to let him drive. Many of these passengers paid a heavy price by being hurt or dying in an accident. Anything we do in excess is a way to feel good and drown, numb, or run away from our emotional pain. Unfortunately, we then have the added problem of the addiction.
As you well know, abuse of alcohol has led to many people being hurt and killed. You can avoid driving or abusing your loved ones when you drink too much. The ideas below can help you stay safe and treat your loved ones with love and respect.
A) Put a check next to the words you choose to say when someone drinks too much. When Others Drink Too Much, I am suggesting that he: 1. Avoid driving. 2. Understand that he is attempting to "drown" his pain. 3.
Decide to take control of his life. 4. Seek help so that he can get the support he needs to heal.
(It takes courage to ask for help.) 5. Do what he needs to do to love himself unconditionally. 6. Be patient with himself and take life one day at a time. 7.
Learn how to communicate his thoughts and feelings in a constructive way. 8. Know that he is a good person no matter what anyone says or does.
9. Forgive himself for all the times he made mistakes. 10. Realize that he is good enough, worthy, and lovable and deserves to be happy, healthy and successful. B) Put a check next to the statement that will help you.
When I Drink Too Much: 1. I avoid driving. 2.
I understand that I am attempting to "drown" my pain. 3. I am deciding to take control of my life. 4. I am seeking help so that I can get the support I need to heal myself.
5. I am doing what I need to do to love myself unconditionally. 6.
I am being patient with myself, and taking life one day at a time. 7. I am learning how to communicate my thoughts and feelings in a constructive way. 8. I remember that I am a good person no matter what anyone says or does.
9. I forgive myself for all the times I made mistakes. 10. I realize that I am good enough, worthy, and lovable and I deserve to be happy, healthy and successful.
Now that you have some constructive guidelines, it is important to practice them so that the people you care about, and you, can feel good in a healthy, safe way. Congratulate others and yourself for resolving an excessive drinking problem.
Copyright 2008 by Helene Rothschild, MS, MA, MFT, Marriage, Family Therapist, speaker, and author of "ALL YOU NEED IS HART! Create Love, Joy and Abundance~NOW." A Unique Guide to Holistic And Rapid Transformation. She offers international phone sessions, books, e-books, MP3 audios, teleclasses, and a free MP3 Audio, "Healing Your Body," E-book, "Truths Set You Free," and newsletter. http://www.lovetopeace.com , 1-888-639-6390.